6 mins

My journey to “mother” hood.

I’ve always been a good dad. I’m good at dad shit. Being creative, making messes, playing, disciplining, planning, working hard, protecting. I wanted to fill in the gaps that I didn’t get. So I focussed strongly on individualised pathways of learning for my children, to support and affirm their dreams. We all have shit days, ...

7 mins

self love and self forgiveness

For a long time I’ve hated myself. For as long as I can remember. I blamed myself for not being able to protect my siblings growing up. I blamed myself for the abuses they suffered. Not being able to stop the hidings, not protecting them at school from discriminatory teachers. I should have done more. ...

9 mins

Dear māmā

I talk a lot.  All the time.  I talk about what it was like growing up in a gang environment.  I talk about what being a dad is; about what being a solo dad is.  I talk about local government, board representation etc etc.  I often talk about leadership and what shaped me as a ...

5 mins

Gisborne Herald Father’s Day article Sept 2013

DAD ON DECK   Father’s Day is tomorrow, and in honour of all the blokes out there doing the hard and happy yards with or without a partner, Louise Hegarty caught up with Josh Wharehinga and his tribe . . .    Josh Wharehinga is a hard man to catch. Between his role as academic ...