3 mins

Letter to the editor – my sister’s cancer journey

This week I am wearing my Hauora Tairāwhiti District Health Board hat. Around our table we read a lot of reports filled with technical language and pages of numbers. ASH rates, falls, targets etc. The data is very important, and when paired with lived experiences, can be powerful. Whether it’s an X-ray, visiting loved ones, ...

6 mins

My journey to “mother” hood.

I’ve always been a good dad. I’m good at dad shit. Being creative, making messes, playing, disciplining, planning, working hard, protecting. I wanted to fill in the gaps that I didn’t get. So I focussed strongly on individualised pathways of learning for my children, to support and affirm their dreams. We all have shit days, ...

10 mins

I am Waru. I am the abused.

Waru Reflections. DISCLAIMER: If you haven’t seen Waru then I suggest you don’t read any further, because this does contain spoilers! In part one, I am Mihi, I refer to myself as broken and fractured. This piece of writing is about how those fractures started and took root. I want to dedicate this to those ...

1 min

Waru Film facebook post

The Waru – Film. Made me want to: Offer help. To my struggling neighbourhood. To those solo parents whose stories I know oh so well. To the tired. The poor decision makers. The broken. Reflections of myself. Be an honourable man, to the vulnerable, for the grieving, to not overstep. Coz even if Yes is ...

7 mins

self love and self forgiveness

For a long time I’ve hated myself. For as long as I can remember. I blamed myself for not being able to protect my siblings growing up. I blamed myself for the abuses they suffered. Not being able to stop the hidings, not protecting them at school from discriminatory teachers. I should have done more. ...

9 mins

Dear māmā

I talk a lot.  All the time.  I talk about what it was like growing up in a gang environment.  I talk about what being a dad is; about what being a solo dad is.  I talk about local government, board representation etc etc.  I often talk about leadership and what shaped me as a ...

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